Ep 42. The Hidden Cost of Being a People Pleaser (and how to take your power back)

Are you constantly putting others first… only to feel drained, resentful, or like you’ve lost yourself in the process?

In this episode, we sit down with Dr Katherine Iscoe — speaker, author, and self-respect advocate — to unpack the hidden cost of being a people pleaser, and why being “nice” might actually be holding you back.

We explore how people-pleasing often starts as a survival strategy, the subtle ways we abandon ourselves in everyday situations, and why no amount of external validation ever truly feels like enough.

Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:

- Why people-pleasing is so common (and why it’s not your fault)

- The connection between self-respect and true confidence

- How your inner dialogue is shaping your reality

- Why most people aren’t thinking about you as much as you think

- The difference between self-care and self-respect

- Simple, practical ways to start choosing yourself

If you’ve ever struggled to speak up, set boundaries, or prioritise your own needs without guilt… this episode will challenge the way you see yourself — and give you the tools to take your power back.

Connect with Dr Katherine:

Website: ⁠www.drkatherine.com⁠

Instagram: ⁠@drkatherineiscoe⁠

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