Ep 31. The Relationship Reset: How to build a closer connection with your partner
This week Scott and Tracey pull back the curtain on the 2-day relationship reset created by Tracey and her psychologist friend and relationship expert, Tina.
They talk about why they created it, who it’s for (and not for), and the specific skills couples practice to stop “Groundhog Day” fights and feel closer again.
It’s a practical, therapist-supported approach without the sales pitch: we talk real tools, real patterns, and what actually changes at home.
Across the conversation, we explore the difference between trading blows about this week’s argument versus learning to spot the deeper loop underneath it.
By the end, you’ll have a clearer map for pressing pause earlier, talking cleaner, and choosing connection over reactivity.
What you will learn:
- How to spot your default loop (the repeatable steps that take a tiff to a blow-up) and where to intervene earlier for a different outcome.
- Regulation before resolution: simple ways to bring your nervous system down so problem-solving actually works.
- Expectations audit: surfacing the unspoken rules you’re each carrying from early life and past relationships.
- Love languages with context: using them after expectations so care actually lands.
- Compromise & acceptance: a framework to negotiate flex points and make peace with the “perpetual” differences you won’t change.
- Pauses, repair, and reset rituals you can use the same day to de-escalate and reconnect.
Who this episode helps:
Couples who aren’t breaking up, but feel disconnected, stuck in repeats, or like they’re “good… but not great” and want fresh tools to get back on the same team.
Key themes we touch:
- Weekly counselling vs a focused reset
- Boundaries, bids for connection, and small daily habits that compound closeness
- Designing “how we do conflict” as a couple value, not a personality clash
If this resonates, share the episode with your partner and pick one small tool to try today.
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